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Time out.

Sometimes being a growed up stinks. Because.  It just does. 

I was asked to make a choice today. 

Either voluntarily take a pay cut (more than three dollars an hour) to continue working at the level I have been since my health became an issue, or go revert to the job title I was hired at and do it one hundred percent full time.

A little history here if you don't know - I'm dealing with some health issues due to the leech-fetus.  When they presented a few weeks ago, I was cut back on my job duties to cut stress and a few hours each week with a doctors' note, and it was to continue as such until the issues were resolved or I couldn't work anymore or got put on bed-rest.  Obviously my health hasn't changed for the better or worse yet, and I've not been able to put a timeline on my ability to work full time.  Right now, I'm doing an average of 75-80 hours every two weeks, at a slightly different level than I was hired to do - and it's already stressing me out.  I can't imagine taking on more, now, until after I'm no longer pregnant and feeling like dirt.

This isn't a choice I can really make.  I cannot afford to take less pay - nor can my health afford to take on more stress or working hours.  If I take the pay cut, I cannot afford to physically go to work, that's just enough to make it not worth it to leave the house after child care is accounted for.  If I take back my position at the pay I'm already making - and take on more stress and eventually more hours - it's going to suck the life out of me, and I can't afford to quit either.

What would you do?

The DaVinci Code

So, I read the hype, I bought the book, started to read it, couldn't get into it, and decided, "Let's see the movie."  Off to the movie - and how long did it take for me to fall asleep?  Yeah, why bother, right?  I woke during the closing credits, because the husband nudged me, and I wiped the drool from my cheek on his shirt and went home.  So, that's my review of the movie.  By the way, it's his fault that I fell asleep - who takes an anemic pregnant woman to a movie after working eight hours at 7pm?  He enjoyed the movie, though.  I'll try again via DVD when it's released.

Only because it makes me twitch.

But You Must Act Now.  Click on the link that resembles this in the right hand sidebar.  I want you to know I have nothing to do with WHAT shows up in those links.  Especially the ones that read like THIS:

"Buy the the only effecttive weitgh loss products Clenbuterol and Cytomel are most effective products, available without prescription."

Name the fetus.

Here it is, the top 100 boys and girls names list from the the US Social Security Department. We can call this, "The List of Names To Avoid Altogether."   At a quick glance, it looks like I've only used two of these names with three kids, one spelled entirely different and another as a middle name.  One of my current girls picks is in the top 25 of the girls names, so it's probably on the out list now.  Out of the boys' list, none listed are any I've considered, except going with "the third."  Wanna help?

1		Jacob	Emily
2		Michael	Emma
3		Joshua	Madison
4		Matthew	Abigail
5		Ethan	Olivia
6		Andrew	Isabella
7		Daniel	Hannah
8		Anthony	Samantha
9		Christopher	Ava
10		Joseph	Ashley
11		William	Sophia
12		Alexander	Elizabeth
13		Ryan	Alexis
14		David	Grace
15		Nicholas	Sarah
16		Tyler	Alyssa
17		James	Mia
18		John	Natalie
19		Jonathan	Chloe
20		Nathan	Brianna
21		Samuel	Lauren
22		Christian	Ella
23		Noah	Anna
24		Dylan	Taylor
25		Benjamin	Kayla
26		Logan	Hailey
27		Brandon	Jessica
28		Gabriel	Victoria
29		Zachary	Jasmine
30		Jose	Sydney
31		Elijah	Julia
32		Angel	Destiny
33		Kevin	Morgan
34		Jack	Kaitlyn
35		Caleb	Savannah
36		Justin	Katherine
37		Austin	Alexandra
38		Evan	Rachel
39		Robert	Lily
40		Thomas	Megan
41		Luke	Kaylee
42		Mason	Jennifer
43		Aidan	Angelina
44		Jackson	Makayla
45		Isaiah	Allison
46		Jordan	Brooke
47		Gavin	Maria
48		Connor	Trinity
49		Aiden	Lillian
50		Isaac	Mackenzie
51		Jason	Faith
52		Cameron	Sofia
53		Hunter	Riley
54		Jayden	Haley
55		Juan	Gabrielle
56		Charles	Nicole
57		Aaron	Kylie
58		Lucas	Katelyn
59		Luis	Zoe
60		Owen	Paige
61		Landon	Gabriella
62		Diego	Jenna
63		Brian	Kimberly
64		Adam	Stephanie
65		Adrian	Alexa
66		Kyle	Avery
67		Eric	Andrea
68		Ian	Leah
69		Nathaniel	Madeline
70		Carlos	Nevaeh
71		Alex	Evelyn
72		Bryan	Maya
73		Jesus	Mary
74		Julian	Michelle
75		Sean	Jada
76		Carter	Sara
77		Hayden	Audrey
78		Jeremiah	Brooklyn
79		Cole	Vanessa
80		Brayden	Amanda
81		Wyatt	Ariana
82		Chase	Rebecca
83		Steven	Caroline
84		Timothy	Amelia
85		Dominic	Mariah
86		Sebastian	Jordan
87		Xavier	Jocelyn
88		Jaden	Arianna
89		Jesse	Isabel
90		Devin	Marissa
91		Seth	Autumn
92		Antonio	Melanie
93		Richard	Aaliyah
94		Miguel	Gracie
95		Colin	Claire
96		Cody	Isabelle
97		Alejandro	Molly
98		Caden	Mya
99		Blake	Diana
100		Carson	Katie

So, whaddya think?  We don't know gender - so boy/girl/unisex suggestions are welcome. 

• I prefer to not use anything popular "right now." 
• I loathe intentional mispelling of names.
• I am drawn to unisex names.
• I don't want anything "biblical."
• I like me some metrosexual boy names.  ;-)
• I don't mind historical or traditional names.  I dig the list of names from the 1900's from the SSA.
• I like surnames as first names
• The kids' last name is two syllables, and it's harsh.  The childs' name must flow.
• I don't like cutesy nicknames - I prefer if we can't actually shorten the names.  (Even though I do.)

I'm picky, too. 

It's a....

Head.

Today's update. I went to my bloodwork appointment, blood pressure was high, hemoglobin count was slightly better than last time, and I got my weekly B-12 injection. Then, off to the OB/GYN office for a prenatal. When I went in, they shuffled me into ultrasound, where the tech immediately stated that she didn't know why I was there, because it is "too early" to see everything, etc. I was put off instantly, and the test was quick and uneventful. She measured the head, femur and abdomen, all of which measured normal, and look fine, I assume. I didn't even ask if she could peek at the gender, because she kept saying that she wouldn't be able to see everything, which I took as "don't ask." Went in the office to wait for the doctor, and in came a midwife. I have nothing against the midwives, but this was specifically supposed to be a OB consult. Frustrated, again. I started asking her questions, and she brought in a more senior MW, who then asked me what my question actually *was, because she didn't understand why I was thinking I'd see a doctor today, I guess. I explained to her that I wanted to deal with the anemia and I need a referral to a perinatalogist to get the treatment. She did say that they consult with the same PN that the blood doc consults with, so he'd be the guy to see.

She also said after I voiced my concern about feeling like crap still, that it's totally normal to feel faint, pass out, etc. while pregnant. I didn't really have any urge to argue with her, that it's completely and utterly not normal for ME as a person who has been pregnant a million times to feel that way. She suggested I tell my manager that it's normal for me to feel like I might pass out now and then, and that I'm fine. Now of course I feel like she thinks I am making this up, and I'm done talking about it with her.

When we got home, we called to get an appointment with the perinatologist, but it's by doctor referral only. Of course, I haven't seen a doctor, and was again frustrated. As the scheduling secretary was taking my information down for a message, she said, "Oh, a referral has come across for you." So, the MW's supervising doctor must have gone ahead and done so, and I've yet to meet this person. A week from Monday, I'll see the perinatologist, and hopefully he can make the decision as to whether we fix my blood or not.