This post was triggered by a forum message I read this morning. A woman who has recently had gastric bypass states that she's working with a morbidly obese woman who has very poor eating habits, and wants to tell the other woman about weight loss surgery.
Mr. MM at highest and "goal."
I know I have thought about telling someone else in "real life" about weight loss surgery, even when they did not ask for my opinion. I know it has passed through my wee brain. I remember thinking of it CONSTANTLY back when I was fresh out of having my own surgery and losing weight insanely fast.
"EVERYBODY HAVE A GOD DAMNED GASTRIC BYPASS! IT WORKS! IT WORKS!"
But, that was my internal voice. I hope I never ACTUALLY said it out loud. That said, I also am aware that when I was specifically asked, I would tell the honest truth, that I HAD SURGERY, and OF COURSE THAT IS WHY I AM NOW HALF MY SIZE. Which means, it CAN work.
And, just so it's out there, my mother in law just told me that she had gastric bypass because she saw our successes. So, it's my fault, technically. ;) She's freaking tiny -- yes -- but not without a bajillion problems.
Now, at almost six years post surgery - if I am outright asked a question about weight loss surgery (that rarely happens, because I look like anybody else at this point, and nobody knows) and "should I have it?" I back everything up with a disclaimer, I am far from wanting to tell someone that if they have surgery -- they will become a pretty pretty princess and shit out rainbows.
Because, according to my experience and the experiences of everyone I have watched, in person and virtually? Vary dramatically -- and most are not without serious difficulties. The initial feeling of "Nobody Need Be Fat No More!" 'slong gone.
However, at TIMES, I do admit, that if something amazing happens, or something works ... I want to share it, and I am likely to. What the hell does that mean?
Say I have a revision procedure that:
A. Cures Whatever Ailment
B. Gets You To Goal
C. Keeps You There.
I'd SCREAM it from the rooftops. OR at least I would FEEL like it. I understand the urge. (Well, isn't THAT another disclaimer?)
The question to you is -- when confronted with a morbidly obese person -- either someone you're close to -- or not (Simply a woman in the mall? At work?) do you FEEL the compulsion to tell them all about weight loss surgery?
- Do you confront the person and tell them about your own experience?
- Do you attempt to get into a discussion about WLS?
- Do you feel like you WANT to chat with them about WLS, but you hold back?
- Would you give someone a business card, brochure or other literature about WLS, just passively sharing information?