I watch Hoarders. People who come across the show may post on Facebook --
- "How can people live like that, it's disgusting!"
- "Why can't you just stop?"
- "Why can't you just clean up your house? Your life?"
- "Don't you see what this is causing?"
- "Why do you continue to DO this?"
I often find myself thinking "How can they live like this?" during the show -- but I never think "Why can't you just stop?"
Hoarding is a lot like morbid obesity.
Hoarding is a very visible manifestation of a psychological or emotional problem.
Morbid obesity is very often a very visible manifestation of a psychological or emotional problem.
About Hoarding -
Hoarding, also called compulsive hoarding and compulsive hoarding syndrome, can be a symptom of obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD). But many people who hoard don't have other OCD-related symptoms, and researchers are working to better understand hoarding as a distinct mental health problem.
Both issues are serious, and often life-altering. While watching Hoarders last night, I said to my husband, "Hoarding is like inside-out obesity."
He didn't get it. It made sense to me! (Maybe I am taking too many neurological drugs, this latest one has brought back the dreams to my sleep. Forgive me if this makes no sense to you. O-o)
With hoarding, your issues are given a tangible presence. You can see, feel, and touch your emotional problems, sort of. They are all stacked up, thrown about, discarded around the house, or bought from the Home Shopping Network.
With morbid obesity, your woes are also given an actual presence, you can see your issues, you wear them.
Now, don't assume that I am stating that every. single. MO person gets that way due to a psychological issue, but, if 4X tee fits, we should probably wear it.
(Also, many obese people claim that they are just fine the way they are, and never would feel that their obesity was a negative presence. Size acceptance is a wonderful thing, and should be encouraged at ANY SIZE. I would be one of the first to say that I was "Fine the way I was, deal with it." Please don't think I am judging the fat person. I am still 320 pounds in my head.)
But for many, it's not. Eating is a band-aid for the wound.
However, when obesity is actually the result of emotional distress, learned coping skills from prior trauma, when food is used as a comfort, it becomes obvious. It's obvious to ourselves and everyone around us, we are fat, we have issues and they show.
In hoarding, possessions (not food) are given the power over a person to comfort them. The objects are the obvious cue that something is not right.
Many of the behaviors between the two -- hoarding and overeating to morbid obesity -- overlap. Food or objects as comfort. Quelling bad feelings WITH something.
Sometimes after a person has weight loss surgery, behaviors creep up after the comfort of food is taken away.
One behavior in particular that seems to come up in common with hoarding and a post weight loss surgery patient? The accumulation of THINGS, POSSESSIONS, CLOTHES... people feel compelled to go and get THINGS to fulfill a void where the food used to go.
"I simply NEED this _______ because <insert validation here.>" Even if they don't have the means to pay for it.
While I don't know if any of my WLS peers have become compulsive hoarders -- that may be a very extreme example -- I do know many have become compulsive shoppers, returners, spenders, gamblers, and so on. Hoarding appears to be triggered from a traumatic event, the post weight loss surgery patient wants to fill something... a need, a want, a loss... over and over.
A HIGH percentage of morbidly obese persons who have weight loss surgery have dealt with severe trauma as well.
Time Magazine -
"The psychology is relatively straightforward: being abused or otherwise traumatized is painful, and food can be a numbing or comforting escape. Hence, abused children may turn to overeating, which causes obesity. Indeed, Adverse Childhood Experiences are also strongly linked with other types of unhealthy "self-medication": for instance, cigarette smoking (which accounts for the increased rate of emphysema among high ACE scorers) and drug abuse (having four or more ACEs increases the risk of injectable-drug use by a factor of 10). As Felitti puts it, "Being fat [or having other unhealthy behaviors] is not the problem. It's the solution."
Read more: http://www.time.com/time/health/article/0,8599,1951240-2,00.html#ixzz19Yg38hru
It's only natural to assume that there's something to be fixed, somewhere.
I can't begin to understand the hoarding disorder, because I don't live with it, but I realize that there's no such thing as, "Why can't you just stop?"
It's not that simple. Could you just STOP eating? Did you?
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